How Childhood Trauma Affects Health Across a Lifetime

We are born innocent and vulnerable, trusting and totally dependent on those into whose life we have entered. As infants and toddlers, we enjoy an unshakeable belief that the world revolves around us. The slightest slight, the smallest reprimand, or even a momentary feeling of being abandoned can have a long-term, negative impact. A child might assume that when their beloved parent ignores them it’s because they aren’t worthy of attention; that there must be something wrong with them. If they were different, or somehow better, their caregiver/parent would always be loving and caring, happy and available, 24/7.

There are other experiences, too; life-threatening, violent, or frightening ones; events that happen to us or those we love. Witnessing your father hit your mother or sibling; hearing your parents’ violent arguments; losing your sense of family through divorce. Children often blame themselves — was it something you said or did that caused your parents to fight? If you had behaved better, would your parents have stayed together? Children all too often feel responsible for the pain in their family.

The thoughts and beliefs that we carry can scar us and influence the adults we become. From them we either trust or distrust others; we see the world as a welcoming or dangerous place.

Traumatic experiences and the beliefs that grow from them can affect our physical health, too. Drs. Gabor Mate (physician, speaker and author of When The Body Says No!) and Bruce Lipton (developmental biologist, speaker and author of The Biology of Belief) speak extensively about the impact of traumatic events on the health of our bodies.

And then, there is stress; the kind of everyday stress that unless we have an outlet for its release, can build and build until we find ourselves experiencing serious health issues such as cancer, heart disease, MS, digestive problems and a whole host of other illnesses. See Dr. Nadine Burke Harris’ TED talk about this.

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When negative messages become deep-seated beliefs about ourselves, we find it difficult to create the professional success and deeply intimate relationships we desire.

Have you ever heard yourself say something like this? There’s something wrong with me; I’m not smart enough, pretty (or handsome) enough, slim enough, or worthy enough . . .

I’m willing to guess that most of us have had thoughts like these at times in our life. It’s normal to experience a moment of self-doubt — especially when we find ourselves in new or challenging situations.

But beyond normal self-doubt, this sort of self-talk can be the result of messages we received at a young and impressionable age — from our family, our schoolmates, our teachers, so-called friends, and society at large

Consider EFT/Tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques)

If daily life is stressful and you haven’t found a solution that doesn’t revolve around drugs, I invite you to experience EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), now known as  Tapping (because we literally tap on certain energy gateways or meridians). It’s easy to learn and easy to do, even on yourself. Once we’ve cleared the BIG issues that have been affecting your life, you can use EFT to tap away momentary anxiety, fears, and day-to-day stressors. Teaching you how to use EFT effectively is a large part of my service!

So if you’ve struggled long enough and you’re ready to release the thoughts and beliefs that restrict your confidence, keep you worried or sick and limit your joy-filled experience of life, sign up for a FREE 20 minute phone, FaceTime or Zoom consult. I look forward to connecting with you soon!

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The underlying premise of EFT is that “the cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system.”

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

When we experience uncomfortable thoughts or memories, most of us will do anything we can to avoid them. Unfortunately, using anything—be it food, sex, drugs, shopping therapy or bingeing on Netflix—to avoid discomfort ultimately results in frustration and the addition of guilt!

Whether the discomfort we feel has to do with the painful effects of a traumatic event, hurtful experiences, or negative self-talk, the healthiest and most effective way to address it is to lovingly acknowledge it and neutralize its impact with EFT (Tapping).

Since EFT Tapping is accessing the same energy system that Acupuncturists use to heal physical ailments, it is often called Emotional Acupuncture. When we experience a traumatic event (from abuse, betrayal, or bullying to a life-threatening accident or wartime trauma like PTSD) the energy system that flows through the body is impacted by that experience. In much the same way that a short in an electrical system affects the flow of electricity, the flow of our body’s energy is disrupted. When the disruption in the energy system is healed, the limitation(s) or related negative emotions are eliminated.

Quickly and effectively eliminating fears (including public speaking), issues of poor self-esteem, negative self-talk, and emotional eating issues are just some of the gifts of EFT.

Imagine… You Feel Incredible… You Look Great… Your Skin is Aglow!

You have finally, finally, finally lost all the extra pounds you have been carrying for years!

You can look in the mirror now and truly smile at the image looking back at you!

Are you ready to see a new you? The ‘you’ that patiently waits in your imagination? The you that has watched you eat ‘only the broken cookies’ . . . that has watched as you said, one more time,‘I’ll start my diet tomorrow . . .’

How Can a Health Coach Help You Reach Your Goals?

A coach is a qualified professional who helps their clients—whether they are star athletes, sales teams or individuals—define and achieve their goals. As every successful person knows, there are times on the road to success, be it in life, sports, or business, when we notice a thought or belief that stands between us and our goal.

Take the star golfer who clutches just before striking the ball, the presenter who panics at the thought of giving her next workshop, the woman who has lost the weight . . . only to gain it all back.

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